Top 3 Colossal Dating Fails By Guys
#1 Coming Across As Being Self Centered.
This is one of the most common complaints received from women who go on a first or second date with a man. The conversation normally goes something like this.
“He will not stop talking about himself”.
“He refuses to take a genuine interest in me”.
“He just keeps talking about things he has, people that he knows, plus places he’d been too”.
In short guys, you’re going to have to build on your self-awareness that way you aren’t perceived as being self-centered. This is crucial if you want women to feel a spark with you, while they are in your presence. Remember! This is one of the fastest ways to never get your phone calls returned.
You can change this by really listening to what others have to say and absorb what they tell you. This to most people is common sense, but when some of us are in a conversation on a first date, we just hear the words people are saying, rather than listening. Try to remember things they have told you about their life.
#2 Refusing To Offer to Pay For The Bill
I do not care that we are in the 21st century. Chivalry is not dead! Even though there are large numbers of women that are highly educated and financially independent. Women want to see you take the lead in many areas. This is one area where you can shine immediately. She will say to herself. “what a perfect gentleman”. If you choose the route of insinuating that you two should go Dutch, you will risk coming across as a cheapskate.
If you make the woman pay on a first date, she might get the idea that you are cheap, broke or simply just trying to use her. You should never let her pay for dinner on the first date because this is the time she will make her mind up if she wants to spend quality time with you or not.
If you and the woman go Dutch will infer from that you are not financially secure, maybe you are unemployed or not much of a gentleman. Make sure you always pay on the first date, if she insists or not.
3# Fiddling With Your Mobile Phone During Dinner
This is another sign that you are not self-aware. Showing signs that you are not self-aware can translate that you are immature. Women respond to men that demonstrate gentlemanly qualities not egocentric behavior.
Just Shut Your Phone Off
This is a great tip, but is something a number of us forget. Either turn it off or put it on silent mode. It’s very annoying and disrespectful to be on your first date and have a constant number of phone calls coming through.
If you are expecting an important phone call from someone, then make sure you do the polite thing by letting your date know. Whatever you do don’t talk or text during your date, this really does send the signal you aren’t interested in her or the date itself. Plus, it’s simply very rude!
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