What To Do When Men Pull Away During Dating?
When a man meets a woman they are interested in, at any given time they will choose to continue to move forward and nurture the friendship or they will pull away if the friendship does not serve their interests. Women are the same way.
1. Do not respond immediately
If you sense he is pulling away try something different and let him take as much time as he needs. This is extremely difficult for women to do. There is great power in allowing people to have their space. If you have a wonderful bond with this man then you must trust and know that he will come back. The absolute worst behavior you can demonstrate is for you to become over anxious and needy. You will need to go out on a limb and trust that this is the best path to take if you want to to circle back around with you.
2. Let him go mentally
Sit by yourself in a quiet place. Visualize you and your man standing together. See him walking away from you in your mind and feel the feelings associated with this. If you feel anxiety gently breath deeply through the feelings of turmoil. Setting him free in your mind will take the power he has over you if he decides to pull away.
3. Reflect on your part
Think about how you might be coming across with interactions. Most of us are incredibly unaware about how we are coming across in a courtship until it is too late. Men and women alike allow the emotional tide of meeting someone new take us where it will. It is not your fault that his is pulling away, but you must take 50% and think about what you might be doing to unravel the friendship.
4. When he returns shine bright
If you follow tip number one he will reconnect with you after he has had time to think. Allowing yourself to get swept up into a new relationship can be overwhelming for men and women alike. When he calls you after a few days do not fight fire with fire. Meaning, do not give him any negative energy. Your days of repeating the past are over. Be kind and warm as usual. Do not give him an indicator that you are unhappy with his recent response.
5. Don’t get on the blaming train
Get very clear about your thoughts and refrain from going negative on yourself. Stay away from thoughts like.
What did I do wrong?
It’s because of my weight.
I’m not attractive enough.
It is not because of these reasons. This is your negative side trying to keep you small.
Remember who you are and keep your perspective clear and don’t forget he has a life too. You do not have any idea about why he has disappeared. It doesn’t matter what is going on. You just need to manage your feelings and thoughts around the current state of the relationship. He likely is not thinking about the dynamics like you are.
At then end of the day you want him to be drawn to your most balanced side not the emotional part of you. You want him to come away from you thinking “Wow, I can really be my self around her” or “Ingrid, really gives me my space.” This is big picture dating. Contact me if you would like additional guidance navigating the path to marriage.
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